Amazing how people who are self-described "brutally honest" never seem to give out brutal complements or be brutally vulnerable.
They can't just be like "Hey @KitRedgrave that skirt looks motherfucking fabulous on you and if you don't like it, tough shit." or "Jesus Christ I am dying of nerves right now at this interview. Just telling it like it is, bruh."
@InspectorCaracal @Trev "I know this is hard for you to hear, but like once a month I think about how it could've easily turned out that we had never happened to meet, and how I wouldn't have any idea just how much lesser my life would have been, and that terrifies me, okay? Sorry but you gotta accept the facts."
@Austin_Dern @Trev "You ARE a good person and I don't care if you disagree, I'm gonna say it anyway"
@Trev @KitRedgrave "god damn i gotta be brutally honest with you, i'm not straight AT ALL but holy hell you're sexy, straight up truth"
@Trev @KitRedgrave This is so true it kind of hurts.
@Trev @KitRedgrave a lot of people are like that. They just don't go around proclaiming how "brutally honest" they are, they just are 🙂
@Trev @KitRedgrave good point. It's very similar to the reputation of being "blunt" in the deaf community. But this bluntness never extends to critical self examination or positive reinforcement - merely a tactless remark that ignores all nuance for the sake of being candid.
@Trev @KitRedgrave not to be confused with people who're brutal_ist_ honest, in which case everything ultimately circles back into a debate about architectural styles
@a_breakin_glass @KitRedgrave It's just fucking concrete, you guys. It's not even scary.
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@Trev i try to be this, and sometimes it works sometimes it really doesnt
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@KitRedgrave @Trev I use brutal honesty on a lot of things, just not compliments because it just feels weird and often bad.
I mean, people don't probably like being complimented with terms that make them uncomfortable and such. But most complementary terms are uncomfortable?
@Trev yes! Thank you!
When people say they’re “brutally honest” or have “no filter” it really just means they’re not taking into account other people’s feelings and say literally anything (mostly negative things) that pops into their head.
@Trev @KitRedgrave I used to be blunt and mean as a defense mechanism after a lifetime of emotional abuse and trauma, but now I try to practice assertive kindness. Drive by compliments, random reminders that I am here for you, constantly working on not giving a fuck about being wholeheartedly trusting.
@Trev @KitRedgrave It’s difficult to be that vulnerable in the face of potential and remembered backlash and consequences, but I honestly feel like the trend is moving towards wholesomeness and positivity and support and I am optimistic.
@Trev maybe I should call myself brutally honest, I beat some of my friends over the head with their being awesome on a regular basis