@mala more seriously, there's actually a really interesting difference in conception around parenthood and family between people who were raised with those things as major bastions against oppressive structures (most racial minorities in america) vs those for whom their family is a major vector for their marginalization (most queer people).

I would be fascinated to read an anthropological study that contrasted the two, although you don't have to be a genius to see the way it's shaped communities+priorities